'It’s not repeating their name, it’s not reciting their life’s story, it is providing a soul sketch. It is to focus on what was meaningful to the deceased, what gave them joy, and what mattered most to them. How did they create and nurture a space for themselves within this world?'
- Cyndy Neilly-Spence
Bidding farewell to a loved one is one of life’s most precious responsibilities.
My role as a celebrant is to serve the bereaved and their family and friends by creating and leading a personal, accurate and above all respectful funeral ceremony.
I do my utmost to reflect the life, values and beliefs of the person who has died. When you contact me or are put in touch with me, you will be in safe hands.
I am experienced in gently holding the space which is the grieving process. My job is to listen to you, to guide you through the logistics, in order that your grief can be held and supported.
We start with a family meeting which will be in person, Covid-19 notwithstanding.
This meeting can include family members and friends of the deceased.
I will give you as much time as you need to talk and reflect, gently guiding you to create your bespoke funeral ceremony.
I am willing and able to write a eulogy or tribute for you. Should you or your loved ones feel unable to do so, I can also deliver it for you on the day, if public speaking is not for you or yours.
The family meeting is the key to delivering the very best representation of the unique life of your loved one. It is my privilege to discover the stories, anecdotes and loving memories, the difficult and joyous times that make up the rich tapestry of a life lived, however short or long.
It is a vocation for me to be able to guide and support the newly bereaved in the poignant time between death, funeral and final committal.
My services are the same, whether you have been put in touch with me by your funeral director or have contacted me personally.
Fees from £199
Shelley was amazingly helpful and supportive in planning and delivering the music for my husband's funeral. She understood and respected our needs as a family. Her wealth and breadth of musical knowledge meant she was able to gently guide our choices to fit the resources available. On the day her performance was sublime and made what could have been such a sad occasion totally memorable in every way.
I will always be grateful to Shelley. She sings beautifully, is knowledgeable about music and ceremony, and is sensitive. She took the time to listen and really understand and so advised us wisely.
Shelley is a naturally empathetic and joyful person who is kind and compassionate. That, for us, added some light into what was a dark time. Shelley is the perfect celebrant.
Shelley, I so appreciated everything you did for us right from the start, visiting us when Mum was ill and being such a comfort throughout the whole process. Your openness about your own loss and warm heart blessed me so much. Your enthusiasm to get the music just the way Mum wanted it and attention to detail was so good. I knew I didn’t have to worry about any of it. Thank you, thank you, Thank you!
Shelley played an invaluable role in my father’s funeral. In the planning stages, we had chosen to have a big selection of music, and with Shelley’s calm guidance and knowledge, we were able to settle on our choices and the running order in just one meeting. This was a big relief for me. On the day of the funeral I had the confidence that she had everything in hand, pulling all the various elements together smoothly and giving us one less thing to worry about. On top of this she has the most incredible voice and sang several uplifting pieces, really adding an extra something special. We felt very lucky to have her.